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4.08.14

The Truth About Why We Push Ourselves

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What drives you to push limits?

We all have our own reasons.  But I bet you have some that you don’t tell anyone.  Reasons you push yourself to add miles, run through pain, and go faster that don’t fit into the typical romantic bubble of motivational quotes you find on the internet about running.  Like this one:image

It’s not that there’s no truth in this stuff but it’s just not the whole picture.  What’s the real truth about why we push ourselves?

I’m going to assume for a minute that many of us grown-up runners were once really good little girls and boys.  We followed the rules for the most part and avoided disappointing others, often at the expense of our own comfort and happiness.  A lot of us runners were quiet and unsure of how to stand up for ourselves and let our voices be heard.

Many of us were afraid of the sound of our own voices.

And so we found a way to communicate with the world that did not require words – we ran.

Finally, we could just breathe and move our legs with total freedom to be authentically ourselves.  But maybe the good little boys and girls can’t “just be themselves” for long and feel its enough.  No, we have to push past comfort because really what else have we ever known?  After expending effort trying to be good for everyone else, why, as athletes, do we have to prove that we can push harder into the “pain zone” and then push past it altogether?

The truth about why we push is directly linked to the unfinished business we carry with us at all times.  It’s different for everyone, but it has a dark side, an edge, a secret.  It always involves fear.

The truth about why I push myself is that I’m afraid of what I would miss out on if I didn’t.  I’m afraid of being disappointed in myself.  I want to live a worthy life, and I was taught that a worthy life is not a comfortable one.  I push harder because I want to be bigger and more awesome than any of the people in my life who wanted me to be small.

I know I have to teach myself to see the dark side of my training for what it is, and not “believe” those reasons, even though they are still there.  I am learning to tolerate comfort over discomfort.

Sounds strange but I bet some of you can relate.  Does your training have a dark side? Do you ever push yourself too hard out of fear?

 

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More than a little into running and paleo recipes (yoga now too!) but I'm not here to rain on your grains (or anything else) so come along for the ride! I do a little too much of everything (except cleaning), and I enjoy laughing at myself. As long as I'm the one making the jokes, that is. Just kidding. So bring me your angst, your appetite and your frying pan and climb aboard!

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  1. Eva says

    May 26, 2014 at 1:13 pm

    great post! i can relate to this a lot. i am naturally thin, and i have a very small young-looking face. most people still think i’m in 9th grade. even though they don’t outwardly say anything, i feel the doubt and condescending glances/tones when some adults talk to me about anything serious. and that used to make me feel quite insecure about myself, because i know i’ll never be able to change the way i look. but i finally realized, to hell with that mindset. no one can make you feel inferior without your consent. i’m not going to try to prove myself or criticize anyone, but i am fighting to stand as i am and speak my truth, even if my voice shakes.
    part of the reason i love fitness (the reason most love it) is that it makes me strong. i want to become ripped for my frame and i want you to be intimidated by me when i reach over and grab that box because of how defined my arms are. so yea, there is part of my “dark side” and it’s awesome. i keep it quiet and someday it will happen and you will realize all along i’m no idiot!

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    • Michele says

      May 27, 2014 at 10:49 am

      It kind of amazes me sometimes the assumptions that people make about someone just based on how they look. I definitely think it plays into some people wanting to “prove themselves” to be the opposite of what others think of them. At the end of the day we can only be ourselves though. Dark side and all 🙂

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